I am getting married for the third time in Januray. My fiance want a traditional wedding and he wants me to have an elegant updo, to wear a veil with blusher. I am 52 and it is my 3rd wedding. I am still thinking if I should do that or just to keep things simple?

You do what you feel yourself. If you want to do that traditional thing, then go for it! If you don't that is good too. Its up to you, its your day and you do what makes YOU HAPPY!

First of all welcome Rose_bronx!

Ditto ieasha. 3rd wedding or not, all eyes will stil be on you. You want to be comfortable and happy. If you want to have a traditional wedding then do. The important thing is creating happy and loving memories together.

Welcome Rose_Bronx! I agree with the other ladies!

Girl three is a charm.LOL which means it is time to break all the rules. What I dont understand is who is the rule setter? I always here people say oh you can't wear that color this season, your cant wear white,you can't do this and you can't do that. I am planing my wedding the way I want to have it and I dont care who agree or disagree, and I suggest you do the same. Do what you feel and dont worry about what others have to say. People will always find something to day.

It is just that my last wedding was 21 year ago I had one boy at that time, now I have 4.
I will take my decision soon. I am only 3 weeks from my wedding day.

housewife147 wrote:

Girl three is a charm.LOL which means it is time to break all the rules. What I dont understand is who is the rule setter? I always here people say oh you can't wear that color this season, your cant wear white,you can't do this and you can't do that. I am planing my wedding the way I want to have it and I dont care who agree or disagree, and I suggest you do the same. Do what you feel and dont worry about what others have to say. People will always find something to day.

I think I said it in a previous post. A tradition starts when somebody decides to do something a certain way. YOU can be that somebody and YOU can decide to do it the way YOU want. In the end you want to have a wedding that makes both of you happy, but don't sacrifice your vision for your wedding day just because you are worried about what others think. As House said some one will find something to say.

Welcome Rose_bronx. If you have tried on this thing, and you hate it, then don't wear it. And let him know. If you tried it on, and it looks good. Go for it! Make him think you're not wearing it, then make his knees shake when he see's you in it. If you don't like it, go simple, with a nice, simple updo sweeping to the side (or a side bun) and add a small flower to hint at elegance. Keep working different looks, but move fast because you have little time. I think that it doesn't matter HOW may times you've been married, a veil, blusher, and updo is ALWAYS appropriate-and can still be simple!

Thank you all for helping me to make a decision. I will go with the veil. Everybody is exited.

Welcome Rose! Do what you feel, it's your day!

Welcome Rose_Bronx! You will look great in the veil.

You sure will! Congrats for working through that. I wish all problems were that easy to work through!

Congrats Rose.
My big day will be also in January and I am having a traditional middleeastern wedding. I will be wearing a western style veil but under the traditional head cover just like what I did during my previous wedding.
I am glad to find this forum for brides over 35.

Hi Zahra and welcome to this site -- we are like one big happy family. I know you will look great in your veil.

Ms. Rose, can't wait to see the pictures girl -- you will look stunning in yours as well.

Welcome Zahra! Always glad to have more ladies join our happy family.

Welcome.....this is my second wedding but my FH's first so we will be having a traditional wedding.

I am 20 days from my wedding. I bought the veil, the gloves, and the shoes. The feeling is great.
I am still looking for an elegant hair style. I love high updos especially that my fiance is 10 inches taller than me.

There are alot of new soon to be brides on the website, Congratulations! How far are you ladies with the planning of your weddings?

Well I bought some garland from walmart (very nice too) for like 3.00-5.00 for 6 feet. This will go on the arch. I also bought Toasting glases, program paper, serving knife set, MY bm'jewelry and my tiara. Saturday we went to David's Bridal to get the alterations started. I went Monday to get my alterations started also. My brother-graphic designer helped format the invitation wording and design so we can print them up next week. WHILE I'm home I'll be working on the address labels. I would do calligraphy but its too much work. I also bought a scrapbook with black pages and a silver metallic pen to serve as out guestbook. I will decorate random pages with pics do dress it up a little......i did a million other things too but I am tired and will divulge more details later.

Welcome, rose_bronx and zahra! I am glad you went with the veil! It is the first time you are marrying HIM so you are a first time bride. Enjoy the big fday. Have a big to-do even if it is wedding #5! Love demands fanfare.

Rosetta wrote:

Love demands fanfare.

I know that's right!!!!

Thank you Rosetta. Yes, I am marrying him for the first time and I am feeling like a first time bride.
Happiness and peace for all.

Same to you Rose_Bronx

Thank you all for welcoming me to this nice group.
2 or my sisters arrived to help me with the wedding and more people are comming. I have choosen my wedding hairstyle which will be very traditional updo with a thick hard bun in the middle to support the traditional head cover.
I feel so happy but I wish that everybody in the world feel the same.

I will go with more complicated updo which means long hours in the salon?

rose_bronx wrote:

I will go with more complicated updo which means long hours in the salon?

It may. Don't forget to consider AFTER the wedding, especially if your honeymoon is right after, AND if you plan to swim at the honey moon. After I thought about that I am finding that I definitely want easy and simple...It must look good for pictures, but I want flexibility and not a fight with the hair when we go swimming.....

I have to decide between two hairstyles. Long and curly or updo. I will go for my hair trials and see which one I like with my dress.

I am just 10 days from my wedding and things are getting crazy. Yeasterday we invited my fiance for dinner, but at the time he arrived I was still wearing my giant rollers. The girls just bushed me inside to say hi to him and started small celebration around us. Everybody love to have fun and enjoy the wedding atmosphere!

Zahra:that is cute to have a mock wedding party few days before the real wedding If I understood that correctly

i nevr heard of a mock wedding ceremony how exactly does that work? And what did you guys do?

I never planned for any mock wedding but it seems that other girls wanted that. They just made us sit on the sofa and they started singing and dancing as if it is a real wedding. They even dropped a white chiffon scarf over my head to veil my face and make me look like a bride. There was so much excitment in the house.

oh maybe I will try that. Is everyone in your wedding party in attendance including your fh and groomsmen. And what do you do besides that. I demand more details! Just joking!

It was mainly my sisters, his sisters and thier kids and my daughters.
My son came later (was not very excited initially)
Me and my fiance just sat and enjoyed the show. I liked seeing the world through the chiffon scarf although I was anxious about my look in rollers but it seems it did not bother him.
the party lasted for around 60 minutes and ended by the girls waking me again to the room to fix my hair.

WOW Zahra. I am sure it was a nice experience.
I am only 5 days from my wedding. Happy new year and God bless you all

Rose how are you holding up? Are you nerves yet?

It is great feeling. I feel nervous sometimes but everybody is supportive.

oh that is good. Keep us posted, and good luck

Hi,it is 7.30 AM our local time and today is my wedding day. last night I had my Henna party. I got henna tatoos all over my hand and feet then they painted my hair with henna and wrapped it with scarf to sleep in. these are very old wedding traditions.
It will be a very busy day for me. It will start with breakfast with the family then face threading session at home then we will all go to a turkish hammam (bath) that I will spend hours in, that is why I am planning to let them set my hair with rollers there before I go to the salon to save time. My party starts at 8.00 pm.
wish me good luck.

Good luck Zahra!

GOOD LUCK ZAHRA

Congratulations Zahara and Rose!!!

Hi, I got married finally. I am writing this massage from my new home.
The wedding was great.
love

Congrats. What were your favorite moments? Can you send pics?

Congratulations Rose and Zahra! Can't wait to see the pictures. Please come back and share.

thank you girls.
Responding to Ajimarie,
My favorite moment was when the groom arrived to my house. I was setting on my chair surrounded by women then then somebody shouted that the groom has arrived. Women started to sing songs and dance and the blusher was flipped down over my face. It was great feeling. My other exiting moment was the street wedding procession party from my house to our new house which was just few houses away. It was a big celebration. I was covered in white from head to toe according to the tradition here. I felt so happy (and shy of course).

Oh Zahra that sounds so wonderful. Congratulations and please share your photo's with us.

Zahra, that is wondeful to hear! I know that you will treasure it in your heart forever.