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Bumblebeekee
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From: Tallahassee, FL (Originally Ft. Lauderdale, FL)
Etiquette on Registry
On the other hand, I understand that he simply wants to provide information for those who are interested. No he cannot understand the concept of parents spreading the word, and if guests wants to know they can simply ask one of us and we can tell them....When I tell him this, he says, "Why should they have to ask?". He also feels like people will not feel like we are asking for gifts, and if they do they don't have to buy, yada yada yada....
Should I give in? I just don't people to feel like we are asking for gifts....hence which is why we have etiquete rules in the first place!
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Edited: Bumblebeekee (Wed 27 Dec 2006 04:56:42 AM GMT)
housewife147
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soontobebride
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alvinslove
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MsBoston
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From: Boston, MA
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No it won't seem that you're fishing for gifts, what you have printed out in the insert is information that your guests legitimately WANT to know. When people have a baby shower question #1 is where are they registered...guests want to know that they are spending their money on a gift that is actually needed/wanted. Registries are actually a wanted convenience...It allows guests to have the info they want, and exclude the guessing game. Works for you as well because you won't have to run around trying to return all the 'crap' that you didn't need/want.
Alvinslove put is best...put out a wishing well/card drop box for guests who can't decide or would rather have you purchase items that you both want.
Edited: MsBoston (Wed 27 Dec 2006 03:13:25 PM GMT)
soontobebride
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DaughterRhonda
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Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Edited: DaughterRhonda (Wed 27 Dec 2006 03:31:07 PM GMT)
Bumblebeekee
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From: Tallahassee, FL (Originally Ft. Lauderdale, FL)
Re: Etiquette on Registry
Problem solved!
You ladies are the best
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Edited: Bumblebeekee (Wed 27 Dec 2006 04:19:17 PM GMT)
housewife147
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Bumblebeekee
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From: Tallahassee, FL (Originally Ft. Lauderdale, FL)
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I called him and told him, and of course he felt good.
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housewife147
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belleblanc
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soontobebride
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housewife147
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jayda91764
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SeptBride
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Thank you very much for posting this. I have to start a new topic now.
Edited: SeptBride (Wed 03 Jan 2007 09:30:49 PM GMT)
MsBoston
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From: Boston, MA
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Hello! That't the rudest most unettiquette (hey..I just made my own word) thing someone can do.
Did you have a problem with this at your wedding/reception?
Edited: MsBoston (Thu 04 Jan 2007 09:11:29 PM GMT)
DWBride
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DaughterRhonda
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As you guys all know I got married in November '06 and we had about 10 people who RSVP'd and didn't show up. I was annoyed! -- It was really inconsiderate. However, at the last minute we added a few people and it worked out ok.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Edited: DaughterRhonda (Mon 08 Jan 2007 06:07:54 PM GMT)
Bumblebeekee
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From: Tallahassee, FL (Originally Ft. Lauderdale, FL)
Re: Etiquette on Registry
Yes the registries should be up there....I will double check. I'll also add hotel information...
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TiffyB
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Also, my shower is in December, and my fiance and I will be registering with our chosen stores (Bed, Bath, & Beyond or Linens and Things, Target, and Macy's) in the middle of October. As far as the shower, is it necessary to do a separate registry for this, or does the bridal registry cover both the wedding and the shower? Thanks!
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Edited: TiffyB (Tue 25 Sep 2007 03:51:41 AM GMT)
HeCallsMeAbeni
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Ginoue
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FutureMrsKeepUp
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Bumblebeekee
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From: Tallahassee, FL (Originally Ft. Lauderdale, FL)
Re: Etiquette on Registry
TiffyB, in the end you need to do what you think is best. My brother included a small card with the registry information, that was part of the invitation package. Truthfully, I think people just want all the information. Knowing your guests will help with this. I decided to include all the information (wedding colors, location, directions, hotel info, prices, codes, etc) on one sheet that is usually spread by mouth with the invite because people just are not that great with spreading the word. Plus it makes sure everyone gets the same information. Plus our colors were "tiffany blue" and white so we didn't want all the phone calls about information.......If majority of your guests are more formal, and prefer to follow rules of "ettiquite" then you will have to put forth the extra effort to make sure the information is dispersed properly. The key to word of mouth is having someone dedicated to doing that task. If one person is supposed to spread the word and doesn't tell everyone, then its not worth it. But if a close relative is REALLY DEVOTED (traditionally mom of bride) to spreading the word then let them do it. I think because tradition holds that bride parents usually pays for the wedding (if not most of it) they would take responsibility of invites, hotel, colors, attire, and other detailed information, but tradition on who pays has been out the door for years. We paid for everything, so we took on that responsibility as best we knew how. My brother too....the biggest mistake he made was thinking he could bypass sending RSVP's and having everyone mail them, but less than 1/2 the family wanted to deal with email (and are older-much less had an acct) so I basically RSVP's the whole family (mom and dad side) myself, which was pure love but a total headache.
Not trying to scare you but give you some practical information that gives a real-world perspective on things....
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Edited: Bumblebeekee (Tue 25 Sep 2007 10:14:33 PM GMT)
TiffyB
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From: Atlanta, GA
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Thanks Ginoue and FutureMrsKeepUp for the information concerning the bridal/shower registry! Now that I know what I need to do, I am so excited about this part of the wedding planning process
www.mywedding.com/kyleandtiffany
Edited: TiffyB (Wed 26 Sep 2007 02:44:59 AM GMT)
IvyPrincess
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TiffyB
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From: Atlanta, GA
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www.mywedding.com/kyleandtiffany
Edited: TiffyB (Wed 26 Sep 2007 07:13:48 PM GMT)
pamcrow
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Sometimes it's just the opposite. Some guest want to be sure not to wear those colors. That's what one of my guests told me when they wanted to know my colors. Normally though, it's close friends and family that will dress in the wedding colors. Those people who have a role in wedding (such as soloist, coordinator, etc.) also wear the colors alot.
Some people also like to buy gifts & cards in the wedding colors. I was amazed at how many cards I received that matched my wedding colors. I guess it will make for good scrapbooking...LOL
Edited: pamcrow (Thu 27 Sep 2007 01:57:06 PM GMT)
Bumblebeekee
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From: Tallahassee, FL (Originally Ft. Lauderdale, FL)
Re: Etiquette on Registry
The same goes for gift wrapping. We got a lot of gifts wrapped in white and silver, and the tiffany blue also...
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Edited: Bumblebeekee (Fri 28 Sep 2007 07:09:33 PM GMT)
jr_bride2011
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Judith Martin - Miss Manners Says:
It is considered rude to put "cash only gifts", or other wording meaning the same thing on the invitation.
You're not supposed to put registry information on your wedding invitation. It's left up to friends and family to inform everyone. However, you can put gift information on an insert in your bridal shower invitations. Miss Manners Says: If you have a personal wedding website with info for bridal party and guests (and gift registry info), you can include an insert with the link to your website in your wedding invitation but please make sure there are engagement photos and couples information on the website so the entire site is not begging for gifts.
You're not required to open your gifts at the shower or reception or in front of anyone.
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