Who isn't scared to post the finally tally of their big day!!

I know I may be a fool but I will start

From invitations to the last dance song the total cost will be
drum roll please

---- 8565.89 ----

Can you say JEALOUS?!? I wish! If I can widdle down my guest list I may be able to stick to my budget of 13k...right now that figure is needin' some help!

OMG, I'm the one who's jealous. lol We're at about 24K right now and I still have 5+ months to go, so I know that figure is going up.

SeptBride wrote:

OMG, I'm the one who's jealous. lol We're at about 24K right now and I still have 5+ months to go, so I know that figure is going up.

Wow...I guess I'm not doing so bad. I feel better now!

Girl I am right with you Askalot, My venue alone is a little over 12,000. Not including dj, photographer, videographer, florist, limo, rings, honeymoon, favors, hair, dress, shoes, fh tux, bridal party gifts, etc....

MzTajsia wrote:

Who isn't scared to post the finally tally of their big day!!

I know I may be a fool but I will start

From invitations to the last dance song the total cost will be
drum roll please

---- 8565.89 ----

I plead the 5th.... & I actually stop counting about a month ago. I am proud to say that we paid for everything cash, so we will not start this union with any more debt than we already have.

What is in the grand total? EVERYTHING or just the ceremony and reception?

SeptBride wrote:

OMG, I'm the one who's jealous. lol We're at about 24K right now and I still have 5+ months to go, so I know that figure is going up.

oh hell no! I'm glad to live down south...

My grand total with everything is $8,000. I started a year ago and got some really great bargins

MzTajsia congratulations! Girl share your secrets.

We set a budget of $5,000 originally then it went to $10,000. After all was said and done, we actually spent about $12,500 in total (ceremony, reception, honeymoon, everything). I am grateful to the Master that we didn't go in debt or owe anyone any money.

My total for everything including the honeymoon will be a little over $10,000...and we are also paying for everything cash down....thank you LORD.....

And the people said Amen!

DaughterRhonda wrote:

And the people said Amen!

AMEN...AMEN AND AAAAAAAMMMMMEEENNN!!!!LOL

Our grand total includes.
Invitations - done by myself
Stamps - paper-printing
Dress shoes undergarments wedding night attire
deposit for bridesmaids dresses and flowers
junior bridesmaid dress and shoes
photographer
reception site
guest passes for island residence
ceremony decorations
FH ring
Family medallions.
Wedding bouquets corsages and bouttinerres (did I spell that right)
Favors
Attendant gifts

FH parents are paying for our trip so that would have been an additional 6500 for six people for two weeks air-hotel-tranfers

housewife147 wrote:

Girl I am right with you Askalot, My venue alone is a little over 12,000. Not including dj, photographer, videographer, florist, limo, rings, honeymoon, favors, hair, dress, shoes, fh tux, bridal party gifts, etc....

Yes, you are RIGHT with me!!! When I sat back and realized the totals, I was like OMG! This can't be right!

Classy, you are right! Things are A LOT cheaper in the south!

housewife147 wrote:

Girl I am right with you Askalot, My venue alone is a little over 12,000. Not including dj, photographer, videographer, florist, limo, rings, honeymoon, favors, hair, dress, shoes, fh tux, bridal party gifts, etc....

WHOA HOUSE! Is your reception venue a popular place or is this around the price for reception halls in your area? I think I would have fallen slap out if someone would have quoted that price too me.

I had my reception at a restaurant (banquet room upstairs) which saved us a few thousand dollars. This is where we saved the most money. My husband's marching band hosts a lot of banquets there so we were able to get the "royal hook-up".

Where on God's Green Earth do ya'll live getting away w/paying so little?! OMG... I'm too embarrassed to say what my tab is!!

I KNEW we should've eloped!!

Thankfully, we too are paying cash (thankfully w/our parent's help), but I refuse to start a marriage w/more debt that we already have.

I have 2.5 words: I'm jealous.....

MrsRobinson2b wrote:

Where on God's Green Earth do ya'll live getting away w/paying so little?! OMG... I'm too embarrassed to say what my tab is!!

I KNEW we should've eloped!!

Thankfully, we too are paying cash (thankfully w/our parent's help), but I refuse to start a marriage w/more debt that we already have.

I have 2.5 words: I'm jealous.....

Where on God's green earth do yall live where things are so high?....LOL....I KNOW I would have been eloping if I had to pay $12,000 for just the reception venue.....I couldn't even begin pulling that kind of money from ANYWHERE.....but those of you that are blessed enough to be able to go there...GOD IS GOOD!.....yall betta GO 'HEAD ON!!!

Girl, in NY, everything's over expensive. That's why I'm soon headed a few hours away from you.
NY is ridiculously overpriced!! I got all of you beat I'm sure....everyone sit down before i drop the bomb!!
Ya'll ready? My reception venue alone's 24K. Now ya'll see why I'm stressed!! Justice of the Peace is where I should've gone!! I will NEVER do this again!

Anyone have oodles of noodles they can feed FH & myself? B/c that's all I can afford to eat after this one.

OMG MrsRobinson you are too funny! Thank God that you can have the wedding of your dreams! God is good all of the time!

We had to cut the cost of our wedding because, we don't own a home or a car, so we didn't want to spend a lot of money on a wedding because we have some goals that we need to accomplish and we need money to do it. Also my daughter is going to college next year lawd hammercy -- I might need some oodles of noodles too!

DaughterRhonda wrote:

OMG MrsRobinson you are too funny! Thank God that you can have the wedding of your dreams! God is good all of the time!

We had to cut the cost of our wedding because, we don't own a home or a car, so we didn't want to spend a lot of money on a wedding because we have some goals that we need to accomplish and we need money to do it. Also my daughter is going to college next year lawd hammercy -- I might need some oodles of noodles too!

Anyone have ooodles of noodles for Rhony's family & myself? We're both looking for some as of now.

Rhony, you did the right thing as we don't own a home either & have between the 2 of us, 1 good car. But, God is good. Thankfully, we only do this wedding thing once (I Hope). I'm a firm believer that life's too short & you should live it to the fullest...even if you do go overboard for a few things. You're never promised tomorrow, so don't put anything off or skimp on anything; including your wedding.

MrsRobinson2b wrote:

Girl, in NY, everything's over expensive. That's why I'm soon headed a few hours away from you.
NY is ridiculously overpriced!! I got all of you beat I'm sure....everyone sit down before i drop the bomb!!
Ya'll ready? My reception venue alone's 24K. Now ya'll see why I'm stressed!! Justice of the Peace is where I should've gone!! I will NEVER do this again!

Anyone have oodles of noodles they can feed FH & myself? B/c that's all I can afford to eat after this one.

Just the fact that your *able* to pay on this is a blessing! I wouldn't know where to begin! I say if you can afford to do it...then DO THE DAG THANG!

Starting next week, that's what I'm eating. Oodles of Noodles, PB&J sandwiches and WATER. lmao

Okay,see Iknow I would have wentthe JOP or have to strangle my mommy budgetis 11,000 and she is still flipping out. SHe say she do have the stuff I want doneherselfalong with co-workers. I don't want her doing anything . SHe did thatforher wedding I don't want her doing it for mind.

SeptBride wrote:

Starting next week, that's what I'm eating. Oodles of Noodles, PB&J sandwiches and WATER. lmao

Hey Sept...try adding babyfood to the list. It's cheap & filling. I'm adding this to my grocery list along w/some oatmeal, farina, & cream of wheat. I'll buy enough for all of us.

MrsRobinson2b wrote:

Starting next week, that's what I'm eating. Oodles of Noodles, PB&J sandwiches and WATER. lmao



Hey Sept...try adding babyfood to the list. It's cheap & filling. I'm adding this to my grocery list along w/some oatmeal, farina, & cream of wheat. I'll buy enough for all of us.

Off topic but whatchu' know about Farina? LOL I'm Liberian and we eat Farina, but I didn't think too many American people knew about that....are you from here?.....I'm sorry that stopped me for a second LOL....

soontobebride wrote:

Starting next week, that's what I'm eating. Oodles of Noodles, PB&J sandwiches and WATER. lmao



Hey Sept...try adding babyfood to the list. It's cheap & filling. I'm adding this to my grocery list along w/some oatmeal, farina, & cream of wheat. I'll buy enough for all of us.


Off topic but whatchu' know about Farina? LOL I'm Liberian and we eat Farina, but I didn't think too many American people knew about that....are you from here?.....I'm sorry that stopped me for a second LOL....

Girl.... we West Indians eat anything! No offense to my fellow brethren. However, I'll eat anything when I'm poor. LOL...

LOL!!! You ladies are so funny, I'm cracking up over here!

I'm with you MrsRobinson life is to be enjoyed and we should all make the most of it!!!! God is sooo good!

MrsRobinson2b wrote:

Girl.... we West Indians eat anything! No offense to my fellow brethren. However, I'll eat anything when I'm poor. LOL...

OKAY, you're West Indian, NOW it makes sense.....I haven't had Farina in a long time!...LOL...that took me back for real...HA!...okay, back to the topic at hand.....

DaughterRhonda wrote:

LOL!!! You ladies are so funny, I'm cracking up over here!

I'm with you MrsRobinson life is to be enjoyed and we should all make the most of it!!!! God is sooo good!

AMEN sista!! "She" sure is...

Our total is $10,000! Thats for everything and the extras (like my sister's dress, his brother's suits, taking my mom and sister to the spa the day before, even our gifts for each other and our Bridal Party, Parents, Pastor, Church, etc). And except for about 300.00 left for the hotel stay on the card, its all paid for, including the rings...CASH IS KING! We paid all vendors with either Cash, a Cashier's check or with our debit visa cards.
The reception and ceremony/photog/video/coordinator cost us about $6,000.00. We SAVED A LOT on photography, videography, and the reception cost/pp because we had a great coordinator who had the hook-up! The church was free, so we gave an adequate donation. The biggest chunk of our money went to the rings-which we paid off on our card in January before interest kicked in. The overall result of the event was probably worth twice what we paid so I give all praises to the MAKER!

well, we are at 10k now, and still climbing. lol. i dont know where all this money is coming fropm since i could barely scrape up the down payment for my house but He wants me to celebrate my nuptials so He is allowing me to have this affair so I am not questioning it just floating. side mention, even though people have been calling all day saying they must have missed their invite. noooooo. u didnt get one.

raysbride wrote:

well, we are at 10k now, and still climbing. lol. i dont know where all this money is coming fropm since i could barely scrape up the down payment for my house but He wants me to celebrate my nuptials so He is allowing me to have this affair so I am not questioning it just floating. side mention, even though people have been calling all day saying they must have missed their invite. noooooo. u didnt get one.

ROFLMAO @ the people who "missed" their invites. Don't you just love them?

Its funny because our original budget was set at 6000.00. We just couldn't fix our mouth up to say more than 10,000.00. But secretly I knew we would....However, its always better to start scaling back, and going from there, instead of coming out the blocks fast spending all this money, and come up short or have to scale back later on, after you get your heart set on something, then realize you can't afford it...
I think its great that anyone can afford to spend as much as possible, but to me, as long as its worth that much to you in the end. I sometimes envy those who can afford to initially budget 10-15,000.00 and up, and thats a blessing from the Lord to me...but like I said, as long as it looks like you spent more than that, AND your result is awesome.....I have seen people spend like 40,000, and in 1 year they are divorced or like, they spend the same amount and they are in all this debt, or even still, they spend all this money and they end up HATING the wedding or its poorly coordinated and everyone ends up remembering the mess instead of the beauty, or get to appreciate the details that the money was supposed to cover.....

Well said Bumble!

Raysbride, you are too funny!

You ladies sure know how to make a persons day. Too funny!

WHOA HOUSE! Is your reception venue a popular place or is this around the price for reception halls in your area? I think I would have fallen slap out if someone would have quoted that price too me.

I dont know exactly how popular my wedding venue is but,that was the cheapest price that I came across.

SeptBride wrote:

Starting next week, that's what I'm eating. Oodles of Noodles, PB&J sandwiches and WATER. lmao

Girl you are too much!!!!!

Bumblebeekee wrote:

Its funny because our original budget was set at 6000.00. We just couldn't fix our pouth up to say more than 10,000.00. But secretly I knew we would....However, its always better to start scaling back, and going from there, instead of coming out the blocks fast spending all this money, and come up short or have to scale back later on, after you get your heart set on something, then realize you can't afford it...
I think its great that anyone can afford to spend as much as possible, but to me, as long as its worth that much to you in the end. I sometimes envy those who can afford to initially budget 10-15,000.00 and up, and thats a blessing from the Lord to me...but like I said, as long as it looks like you spent more than that, AND your result is awesome.....I have seen people spend like 40,000, and in 1 year they are divorced or like, they spend the same amount and they are in all this debt, or even still, they spend all this money and they end up HATING the wedding or its poorly coordinated and everyone ends up remembering the mess instead of the beauty, or get to appreciate the details that the money was supposed to cover.....

I know what you are saying ...I don't have it right at this very moment. Like you we are both saving and so far we half of that saved and a lot stuff we already purchased years ago when wedding businesses were going out of business. I doubt we spend even the half we have saved with the mother and godmother I have them ladies will find a deal if kills them. So I am going with the budget and no more I pray it will be less. We are trying to do both save to by the house and plan. I know the feeling about people spending all that money and then end up divorced a week later or the wedding look like someone just threw it together. My mom was in one of those wedding and she still ready to strangle the young lady to this day.

MrsRobinson2b wrote:

well, we are at 10k now, and still climbing. lol. i dont know where all this money is coming fropm since i could barely scrape up the down payment for my house but He wants me to celebrate my nuptials so He is allowing me to have this affair so I am not questioning it just floating. side mention, even though people have been calling all day saying they must have missed their invite. noooooo. u didnt get one.


ROFLMAO @ the people who "missed" their invites. Don't you just love them?

Don't you just LOVE those people that invite themselves to your wedding? I get the..."GURRRRLLLL I already got my dress!!"....well honey where do you plan on wearing it is my answer. Or I get "I'll be chking my mailbox"....it's crazy.....why do you think you are getting an invitation just cause I speak to you every once in a while at work. A WHOLE LOT of people are going to get their face straight BROKE when they find out they are not receiving an invitation....this stuff ain't free man!!

Soon you are soooo right! All brides will experience this at one time or another. LMBBO (Laughing my black butt off!) Too funny!

Soon...I soooo hear ya! My niece had the absolute audacity to get flam w/me b/c she tells me "I told you that I wanted to be in the wedding. I already bought a dress". SO, I told her to hold it for her own wedding...good luck w/that! People sure do show their true darned colors around wedding time.

All I know is...let someone show up that wasn't invited. I WILL see to it that their a$$ is casually escorted off property. If they don't want to leave? Well, hey..pay up!! They can pay for their own plate...that'll shut them down. I'm tired of negroes right about now, b/c they got some set of kahunas on them to even try.

MrsRobinson2b wrote:

Soon...I soooo hear ya! My niece had the absolute audacity to get flam w/me b/c she tells me "I told you that I wanted to be in the wedding. I already bought a dress". SO, I told her to hold it for her own wedding...good luck w/that! People sure do show their true darned colors around wedding time.

All I know is...let someone show up that wasn't invited. I WILL see to it that their a$$ is casually escorted off property. If they don't want to leave? Well, hey..pay up!! They can pay for their own plate...that'll shut them down. I'm tired of negroes right about now, b/c they got some set of kahunas on them to even try.

RIGHT!!!!!

HAAAAAAGHAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! MrsRobinson you nailed it! Too funny.

See... ya'll are laughin'. There's 2 much money on this day being spent for these ungreatful, no home trainin' havin', ill-mannered folks to be actin' a fool!!

I'm gonna post my picture one day. Just in the event that ya'll see me on the news for an assault case in July. My sistas can send me commissary.

Girl you missed your calling -- you should be a comedian.

MrsRobinson2b wrote:

See... ya'll are laughin'. There's 2 much money on this day being spent for these ungreatful, no home trainin' havin', ill-mannered folks to be actin' a fool!!

I'm gonna post my picture one day. Just in the event that ya'll see me on the news for an assault case in July. My sistas can send me commissary.

Tooooo funny. What part of LI are you in?

Sept, I'm in Westbury (Nassau County) about 30 minutes out of the city.

SHUT UP!!!! I have a big family in Westbury! You may know them! Actually, I'm heading your way on Saturday because my uncle is sick. He lives in Westbury but he's at a hospital in Plainview (I think that's the city).

My total to date is $18,000, I know that sounds like alot but we have been planning this day for the past year and a half, we are getting everthing we want and have budgeted for it. I know by the big day the total will have increased.
I have told my coordinator not to let anyone into the reception that has not RSVP'ed. I am dead serious about it and don't care who dosen't like it. Like I have learned by visiting this site "My Day, My Way"