Ok. Please tell me someone else is going through this! My MatronOH married the family prince. You would think he was the only male in their family if you could see how is mother, sister, aunts, and female cousins act about him. Actually his father too! She said everytime she met one of hem it was like an interview to see if she was good enough! Now they have the "million dollar baby" according to his mother. Mind you their daughter is NOT the 1st grandchild!

That said, I thought I was in the clear on this because both of FH parents are deceased. BOY WAS I WRONG! His aunts are crazy! Too many women in one family for me, and I come from a family full of women! I guess because FH was kind of a womanizer in the past, they all are trying to see what makes me so special that he is marrying me. I've done ok for myself so far in life and one of them made the comment "Oh, I see. She got her own house huh? A college girl huh? He gone use that girl up!"

WTF?

This came from his cousin who I met early in our relationship and is kinda "out there" so I'm taking it with a grain of salt. But I can hear that coming from his oldest aunt cause she just seems bitter or something. We've been together 5 and 1/2 years but I just met this aunt. I met 2 of his other aunts about 6 months into our relationship. They were cool then but now one of them its acting up also! "Oh yall still together?" Duh, lady! We just had a child 19 months ago. But I guess since you haven't seen her...

Sorry yall. I just needed to vent. But has anyone else married or is marrying the family prince? How do you deal with these catty so and so's?

My fmil has two son's and she favors my fh the most. At times she can get a little out of control, but my fh handles it. He checks her and her checks her very well. I AM SO GLAD HE IS NOT A MAMA'S BOY!

My husband is also the family prince but I haven't had any issues with his family. Growing up my husband was always getting in trouble but was also the one they could always count one when needed. They are just happy he found someone that grounds him and keeps him focused. My MIL jokes she finally pawned him off on somebody.

Thank God I'm not alone...FH is not just the family prince he is the family Super Star! It's like an alternate universe when it comes to him and when they found out that we wanted to get married....Lawd!!!

But wait lets take it a step back. His sister and I were best friends. I mean we would go across town to see each other, laugh and cry together, after I got saved we would pray together, went and hung out together, etc. Well her and FH have the same dad and different moms and didn't meet each other until a few years ago. Well I didn't know it but she get's kind of possive about that side her father and her brother.

When she found out FH and I were talking its like she turned into a completely different person. She called her dad and told her about everything (and I mean everything) I had did and ever done before I was saved! I had no clue. I went to FH's father's house to talk about how weird she was acting and he started to ask me all these personal questions.....Things you wouldn't even talk to your doctor about! He went on to say some very hurtful things to me and I walked out in tears....

That was just the beginning.... Some monthes later FFIL calls my future aunt in law and tells her what FSIL told him. FAIL (lol, is it bad that I like how that acronym looks?) proceeds to call my cellphone and leaves me a message like about how she knows all about my past and "it will be a cold day in hell before I let you marry my nefew."along with some other horrible things....FH went down her house and handled her, thank you Jesus! But she still hates me.

My other FSIL that shares the same mom with FH, left him a message on myspace telling him not to settle and he could to better...On the freaking internet! She never said anything to my face! FH confronts her about it and she said she wasn't talking about anything in particular. Yeah right, she's known for being as direct as possible...

Then theres FMIL.... Although FH is not her only son she favors him way more than his older brother. She tells me she loves me and had been praying for me before I even met FH. BUT she asked FH if he thinks I'm controling him....

They all asks FH for money. FH hardly has it but when he does he gives it. AND THEN FH didn't get a whopping amount of settlement money. His momma finds out he's using half toward the wedding and she told him " You're going to be saving for your wedding and we'll be living on the street!" Highly dramatic and highly untrue. And did I mentioned that everyone from his sisters to his mother and father are saved, sanctified, and holy, bible reading and believeing Christians!

I get so sick of it sometimes. I know they don't want us to get married and they don't think I'm good enough for him. God is able to change hearts though. I hope it happens before the wedding.

Lawd Jesus Abeni! The devil is busy in your relationship. But I'm banking on the love of God I see between you two in the video and know you will be ok.

Ohhhh weeee, can we really get talking about this?!?
I thought I had it bad, but how about now i'm counting my blessings that I don't have to deal with 1/2 of the crap yall two (future&abani) are going through.

FH is a prince, and his dumb ol' sisters (ok that was mean...but it is what it is) think that it is his responsibility to provide for their every whim and need (they are in their late twenties and early thirties)

Well it's not as bad as yall two..Abeni jesus would have to forgive me the day I caught up with ol' girlfriend! People are rediculous!
And Future, you just have to ignore stupidity...People say some dumb *hit sometimes, I swear!

ok, one last quick story of his family antics: Last weekend, his sister is talking about "come over, with the kids I'm having a cook out" OK, well and good right?
NO. How bout FH gets there and like usual she needs to go here, go there...blah, blah, blah. He takes her to the supermarket, she FILLS up the cart, and really stands back while she hands the cashier $20 for about $85 worth of groceries. THEN has the audacity to stand back and waith for FH to pay for the rest.

Don't you know FH left her behind standing right at the register! That's just what her rump gets! You don't invite someone to a so-called cookout and expect them to foot your bill! Crazy broad. Well at least FH is starting to 'get it' now that these wedding bills are starting to flood in.

OK that's it...and I'm convinced it'll never be as bad as you Future or Abeni...God help both yall crazy Future-inlaws!

I don't know but I will be praying for you ladies!

JESUS!!! II married the Family Prince, But I never had it that bad... The worst I've had it was when we first got together we took some pictures at the mall & when he gave one to his Grandmother she said why y'all takin these kinda pictures, it ain't like y'all 'bout to get married!! (how ironic) Any who she never our picture up on her piano (very big deal in their family) well he DH found out about that he went off, he's always been soooo defensive of me, though she apologized and put the picture up, their relationship has never been the same... I'm praying for you Future & Abeni... The devil is a liar, Claim That!

Oh God yes! Let's start with my husband is the only boy and the baby. So crown prince is nt even the word. Fmil is now deceased but there were a couple of times I had to put her in her place. Fsil is another story. In the past, she wld nt pay her bills for months and then call him and say I need 3K and 4K to pay her rent. This fool wld send it to her. His ex wife has always said his mom and sister are the reason their marriage did nt work. Well, I AM NOT THE ONE. Luckily, when honey and I started bck dating as adults, I was established and had my own, including house. So he kinda knew he had to come correct. When we decided to move in together I did not have to tell him certain things, we were on 1 accord. She called and asked for money and he said I have to talk to Felicia and call you bck. Well that did not go over well at all! That was the beginning of our war. She did nt appreciate or understand he was in a real relationship where he was finally happy and was nt trying to mess that up. My husband is an old fashioned sort of man, meaning he feels it's the man's job to go out and make the money and the woman's to make sure all the bills are paid. So while i wld never tell him what not to do for his family, we do nt have money to give to someone who is always out shopping and only has 1 child when we have 7 and responsibilities, OK!

Tell 'em Tajmom, don't nobody got time to be shelling out money to someone with WAY less responsibilities, times are too hard, you got your own bills to pay. I bet she is too through with you, ha ha!!! Oh well.

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I did marry the family prince. He is the youngest child. When my MIL (now deceased) first met me she seemed to really like me. When I got pregnant, she turned into the MIL from hell! His sister and neice also gave me hell. I stood my ground and now his sister and neice tolerate me. They however, love my daughter who looks just like his sister.

I don't let any of those women over step themselves and pry into my relationship with my husband. While they don't particular care for me, they do respect me. We are also able to have civil family affairs, so I guess all is not lost.

Having read all the previous posts I guess I don't have it that bad...

FH is the only son and definitely the family prince. He is also the first paternal grandson so everybody does treat him like he is the be it all in the family.

As posted in another thread,my FSIL doesn't speak to me unless when spoken to. While this used to hurt me I've since decided that I'm not gonna give myself grief over that. As for FMIL (FFIL has since passed on), I guess I can describe her as a smooth operator - in front of her son she always says the right things and gives me hugs but soon as his back is turned she will say something wicked but she sugarcoats it with a smile so that I end up thinking that I misconstrued her.

While it was my solution to keep as much distance as possible between us this is proving difficult as FH & I have since moved in together and FMIL has made it her business to call the house on a daily basis to find out how her one & only babyboy (that's what she calls him) is doing. I must admit that rattles my chain but I can't complain because FH thinks Mom is being sweet.

I didn't marry the family prince but I will sadly admit that I am the family princess. I am the oldest girl on both sides of the family, and I managed to be as successful as my whole entire family has wanted me to be....so of course when shy FH (then boyfriend) comes around my mom's side of the family for the first time....they had the nerve to be a little stuck-up acting...and I was very embarrassed. When he went to shake my uncle's hand he squeezed it hard...And my cousins started poking fun at his name and calling him Governer, and Major instead of his real name which is General...Even my mom felt like he wasn't good enough for me because he was pursuing Computers and not something super-lucrative like medicine, law or engineering, blah blah blah...
To make a long story short my DH still hesitates to go around them, but he will this Christmas...and I did step up and get everyone straight and tell them: You know for you to say he's not good enough for me is an insult. You basically are saying that I don't know how to make good decisions...and when I put it that way they were like, oh you're blinded by love, blah blah blah...so I said I know what God said for my life, and if you have a problem to freely take it up with Him...We all get a long great now because that happened years ago, but I can tell my mom feels like I should have married someone richer....Even when he spoils me with lavish gifts-ever since we first got together when I was 19, its like...oh where'd he get the money for that? But I said mom, my boyfriend is a saver...He may not be rich but he's had CD's, bonds, and huge savings since he was 18 years old. His parents appear not to be rich because expensive clothing and "things" never meant anything for them, they own properties, and was able to buy their children brand new cars and send them to school cash...My mom, and many of my family were not great savers...My dad's side of the family loves him however!
Seeing all of your posts reminded me of how my family treated my own DH...All I can say is keep your heads up, and remember to demand that your loved one keeps standing by you.