I am just curios if any brides have the traditonal set up. Is anyone's parents footing the bill and the groom's family getting the rehearsal dinner and the honeymoon?

We are paying for ours all by ourselves. I am glad because it's myday, my way, my pay. lol

My groom's family took care of the rehearsel dinner...as you know...lol Family and friends cooked the food for the reception, so in order to purchase the food, we had family donations. Everything else we paid for ourselves. I

Traditional? I believe the traditional things we did were send out invites, have rehearsal, and say "I Do".

Or did anyone register for fancy china and stuff? Im going to buy one set this year and one set when I am thirty whether I get married or not. I want to give them to the two daughters I plan to have or adopt.
I want to get two sets of silver also.

My mommy footed the bill but she let me have everything my way. My Nana paid for some things also. My DH father footed the rehearsal bills and rings. My Nana's gift was our honeymoon. I think it was not traditional because my father did not contribute a dime but he did come.

What a blessing! I hope to help out with my kids when it's there time.

If that made you happuy that he came than I am glad for you. My father wont be invited. Either my sister's dad or my uncle will stand in for him. I am hoping he doesnt find out and definitely dont want him to come.

mycenae1918 wrote:

Or did anyone register for fancy china and stuff? Im going to buy one set this year and one set when I am thirty whether I get married or not. I want to give them to the two daughters I plan to have or adopt.
I want to get two sets of silver also.

didn't do this either ...I was forced to do one ...and it was a pain in my neck!

I am about to order a set of gold trimmed china, glasses, and silverware now. The silver chest will have my maiden name on it. I am planning to give the wedding set to the oldest daughter and the maiden set to the younger. Or my nieces.

Fabulous ...you have everything all planned out the way you want it! Very Good!!

DH and I paid for EVERYTHING..since I had been married before, I didn't even ask for any outside help...
Nope, didn't do a registry or purchase china...actually I wanted to put 'no gifts' on the invites since but my coordinator said that was tacky...

That is good or you can ask guests to donate to a charity in your name if you dont need anything.

I am going to register. FH has been married before but this is MY wedding. lol. I tell him that. YOu had a wedding already. lol. He likes the colors etc though.

Yeah that is tacky to put it in the invite but we didn't do a registry either we just had a cash only reception but it was by word of mouth we did get like three gifts. Honestly we really got alot of money back and DH father gave us a down payment for a new home which was a blessing. When I tell you ladies God is good I am not lying he is magnificant not because of the money we got back but just because he has really brought us far in life and we have him to thank for everything he has done for us.

A downpayment for a home is certainlyh a blessing. Im opening a mony market account to put my home buying money in. I cant wait. I can only afford something small but I will make it a home.

Try Bank of America we opened a money market account and we already made money but you have to watch out for the minimums and you can only do but so many transactions per month. We did a couple of CD's also and they are great. We did the 7 month ones but the interest rate was great. But keep in mind you can't touch that money for the 7 months and the min is 10000 but the return is well worth it.
Girl I need to go work for the bank I am sitting here promoting them like this.

the credit union has a 250$ minimum and 3.25%. i am looking at that. I think owning a home is such a blessing my bride and her FH are getting ready to buy an d I will be all in the housewarming party. Loves blessings and good news!

Turiya wrote:

Traditional? I believe the traditional things we did were send out invites, have rehearsal, and say "I Do".

Just about the same for me T. lol
But our parents did help out a bit. DH's stepmom took care of the servers, they all work for her.
DH's mom paid for the Pastor, she told me it was a gift but no she asking for the money back!
My mom paid for the glasses and liquor
my step dad paid for the limo

i dont think I am putting the parents names on the invites because I am illegitimate and have my dad's last name so I will just have me and my FH on the invites and put my mom and my sister's dad (her ex) on the programs. LOL

I didnt put my parents names on the invites either, but i put my parents (step included) and his parents (his step mom included) on the programs as "Parents of the Bride and Groom"

Shy41208 wrote:

Traditional? I believe the traditional things we did were send out invites, have rehearsal, and say "I Do".


Just about the same for me T. lol
But our parents did help out a bit. DH's stepmom took care of the servers, they all work for her.
DH's mom paid for the Pastor, she told me it was a gift but no she asking for the money back!
My mom paid for the glasses and liquor
my step dad paid for the limo

I would just give her the money back and not accept any more "gifts" from her. Done. LOL Still gotta love her though. All love

mycenae1918 wrote:

the credit union has a 250$ minimum and 3.25%. i am looking at that. I think owning a home is such a blessing my bride and her FH are getting ready to buy an d I will be all in the housewarming party. Loves blessings and good news!

May I ask ...what Galaxy you're from and maybe even a 5 year radius of how old you are? I know we are ALL different, come from different places ..which makes the world go around Noticing little things you say and are doing, just makes me wonder ...is that what they teach in your galaxy?

I.E. ...Your bride. That's a little suspect sounding ..LOL

So just out curiousity ...I was wondering

Turiya wrote:

the credit union has a 250$ minimum and 3.25%. i am looking at that. I think owning a home is such a blessing my bride and her FH are getting ready to buy an d I will be all in the housewarming party. Loves blessings and good news!


May I ask ...what Galaxy you're from and maybe even a 5 year radius of how old you are? I know we are ALL different, come from different places ..which makes the world go around Noticing little things you say and are doing, just makes me wonder ...is that what they teach in your galaxy?

I.E. ...Your bride. That's a little suspect sounding ..LOL she's already married YOUR DUTY is now over ...LOL

So just out curiousity ...I was wondering

LOL. I am in my twenties. I just call her my bride as a joke. We are still friends and she wants me to go to some home buying events with her so I will go. I am a very supportive person.

I dont think it is odd to be happy and helpful that a friend is buying a home with her husband. I think the rate I found on my money market is excellent.

What is strange about being supportive and saving for a home. I plan to buy one next year. I think that is good.

I joke too ...so it's cool! LOL

Never said you were being odd though ...definately not about saving money and I never "said" you were being strange either ..LOL

Guess that Galaxy is still a secret though ...

Bride is applicable to the first year of wifehood so although the wedding is over if she needed help writing thank you notes or any post wedding events I would still help her.
I mean you seem to be confrontational. If I were a hater I could understand but I am chill and caring. How old are you?

LOL ...You really flooring me now! Imma walk on over and join my homies in the corner, before I get thrown over there. Peace! LMAO!!!

I'm late to responding, but DH and I paid for our special day.

Turiya wrote:

the credit union has a 250$ minimum and 3.25%. i am looking at that. I think owning a home is such a blessing my bride and her FH are getting ready to buy an d I will be all in the housewarming party. Loves blessings and good news!


May I ask ...what Galaxy you're from and maybe even a 5 year radius of how old you are? I know we are ALL different, come from different places ..which makes the world go around Noticing little things you say and are doing, just makes me wonder ...is that what they teach in your galaxy?

I.E. ...Your bride. That's a little suspect sounding ..LOL

So just out curiousity ...I was wondering

I dont think anything I have done or said is "suspect." I am not the type of woman with my face all contorted and hating on folks. I like to see people happy and being supportive is the friend thing to do.
It's all good though. LOL. I am still in the corner myself for reopening an old post on infidelity.

DaughterRhonda wrote:

I'm late to responding, but DH and I paid for our special day.

I'm glad I am using all our own money. That way I dont have to worry as much about what people will think. When the parents pay they can be overbearing. I was just curious because today's couples are footing most if not all the bill in may cases.

My hubby and I paid for everything except for the wedding cake, black cake, and tarts. My parents wanted to pay for those, and we're grateful.

My parents gave us 2 grand. His parents said that they will pay for the flight for our honeymoon. We will pay for the rest.

So far My dad.. I call him the "Daddy fund", oh and my mom..
Hmm Does my step-mom count since she's married to my dad..
Oh and us..

Turiya wrote:

LOL ...You really flooring me now! Imma walk on over and join my homies in the corner, before I get thrown over there. Peace! LMAO!!!

Dag T, what took you soo long to get over here? I made sure nobody touched your stuff cause I knew you'd be coming back. Sorry to tell ya though, Pebbles drunk the rest of the Kool-Aid.

My mother paid for my dress, and her and my dad gave about $4000 towards the reception. The rest of that 30K was all on us. His mother was supposed to do the rehearsal dinner for us but went out of work on disability shortly before the wedding so she couldn't afford to do it. Both my parents are on total disability and if they had it, I know they would have paid for the entire thing. I know how much it hurt them that they couldn't do more so I still listed my parents and his mother on the invites as if they were paying for the wedding.

My sister and her husband has paid for my dress , tiara, shoes and half on the photographer and the band for the wedding . My oldest brother will pay for our cake. My youngest brother will pay half for the videographer . One of my nieces made the flowers for the wedding . His parents will do the rehearsal dinner . Everything else me and my husband to be will cover the rest.

My parents are paying for my reception. Everything else is being paid for by my FH and myself. He has like 5 sisters so they will be pitching in and helping with my pictures and videographer.

pamcrow wrote:

LOL ...You really flooring me now! Imma walk on over and join my homies in the corner, before I get thrown over there. Peace! LMAO!!!


Dag T, what took you soo long to get over here? I made sure nobody touched your stuff cause I knew you'd be coming back. Sorry to tell ya though, Pebbles drunk the rest of the Kool-Aid.

LOL! Dang Pebbles ...that's how you feel? It's cool -I brought more for all of us ...

FH and I will pay for everything ourselves, with the exception of the Photography and Flowers, which will be paid by our MOH and the Videography and Limos, which will be paid by our Best Man. In our culture, it's a tradition to do so.

As far as the food is concerned, we were gifted with the catering by one of the vendors that I use a lot (She's awesome!!!). I also have 5 young ladies from our church who wants to volunteer to be our servers for the day as their gift to us (aren't the youth group thoughful?) That's all we have so far, but as I've said in a previous post and at the advice of my sister Pamcrow, I plan on accepting all the hookups that comes my way without asking of course.

As far as registering, we're registered at Macy's and JCPenneys. I love it though because every so often, we keep on receiving things from people from our wish list. It makes sense though because it lets everyone know what you want and you'll not be expecting 5 toasters on your wedding day (LMAO)

Turiya wrote:

LOL ...You really flooring me now! Imma walk on over and join my homies in the corner, before I get thrown over there. Peace! LMAO!!!

T, I am walking over to the corner to join you for laughing soo d@mn hard. Girl I don't know what else to say but that's a special case.

My mom and stepdad gave us about 3,000
DH grandmother gave us 2,200
My mom's boss gave 1,000 toward flowers
My aunt payed for the DJ
My sister funded my candy station, and the rest was on me and DH.

mycenae1918 wrote:

A downpayment for a home is certainly a blessing. Im opening a mony market account to put my home buying money in. I cant wait. I can only afford something small but I will make it a home.

Super smart! Talk to a good Realtor. You would be surprised with what you can afford. My 22 year old sister bought her first home in Norfolk and she was only making 33 grand a year. A good Realtor was all she needed to find loopholes and a really great deal in a upscale neighborhood.

sensationablyhappy wrote:

LOL ...You really flooring me now! Imma walk on over and join my homies in the corner, before I get thrown over there. Peace! LMAO!!!



T, I am walking over to the corner to join you for laughing soo d@mn hard. Girl I don't know what else to say but that's a special case.

ROTFLMAO...Sen you are next!!!!!!!! yall are off the chain!! LOL

LMAO.....MRS.J, you must agree that lightbulb is not fully lit.
OK,OK i'm running to the corner now. Move over T, and save me some koolaid.

Lawd the corner is busting at the seams with outta control people!!!! Yall are too much -- this is too funny. The corner seems like the place to be -- LOL!!!

Drinking that red Kool-Aid is starting to effect everyone!!!!!

For what I'm thinking about what I'm thinking ...I'm thinking I'll be be here a minute! LMAO ...Therefore I brought Kool-Aid, Sunflower Seeds, and Bologni! LOL!!!!

HAAAAAAAAAAAA HAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!

OMG Turiya you are off the hook!!!! LOL!!!

T, you are too FUNNY!!!! I am over here in tears crackin up.

Sen, I definitely agree with you on that one.

YALL-NEED-TO-STOP.......(POP...POP)....that's me poppin' all yall!!....

...and NO MORE CORNERS!....You all seem to be having absolutely TOO MUCH fun over there...yall got snacks...and drinks...Oh no...we have to find somewhere else for yall to go!...Punishment is NOT supposed to be fun!!

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY MRS. SOON TO BE!!! (I'm taking BRIDE off since you're past your first year of marriage! LOL)

I don't get popped now ...do I?

Turiya wrote:

For what I'm thinking about what I'm thinking ...I'm thinking I'll be be here a minute! LMAO ...Therefore I brought Kool-Aid, Sunflower Seeds, and Bologni! LOL!!!!

girl, you HAVE to have some cheese and crackerS for the bologni so don't forget that!! LOL