We are on a major budget. I decided that I proably wont do the two tier reception. Once I wrote my list I was happy with my guest. I have two questions.1. Is it tacky to send the ceremony details via email to anyone who asks to attend or to people who are welcome to attend the ceremony but who I am not inviting to the reception?2. Is it tacky to have the rehearsal dinner at a buffet? My place isnt very big. I will still pay for our guests.

How casual is your wedding? If it is very informal an e-vite might be ok. I personally feel if they are invited, they should get a mailed invitation. That's part of the fun and excitement about the wedding.
A buffet is perfectly acceptable for your rehearsal dinner and may even be referred by your guests. More chance to mill around and chat with everyone about the big day!

Consider a potluck buffet, if money is tight. Get all your immediate family to bring a favorite dish. My future sister-in-law had a buffet reception for me and I loved it. OH and don't forget the rehearsal dinner is the Groom's family's responsibility!

LOL. I wont ask or expect my inlaws to pay. They are nice enough and very supportive. We are already married and having a ceremony. I am glad the buffet isnt rude I like one every now and again!
I was just worried about if someone asks to come. I guess I will say we are having a small wedding and keep it at that.

lol. That's cool. No buffets are great. This way you won't have to worry about people not getting what the really want to eat or worrying if a vegetarian has enough to eat. There is so much vareity at a buffet. I know they will love it. Let the restaurant know when you are coming and what for. Some offer group rates when they expect you and even freebies for wedding couples. Be sure to ask about decorating the tables too.

Small centerpieces or floral arragments don't have to break the bank. Did you know full service supermarkets like Harris Teeter will make small floral arrangements for you? No one would know that they did them and you would have a nice area for your rehearsal. It's best to go to the store, rather than online. At $5.99 for a dozen roses on sale, you can't go wrong!

You're right on the ball Rosie, as usual. 
On that note, my sister, I have nothing more to add, but will look forward when you start posting pictures of things accomplished for your big day!!!

I wish I k new how to post pictures. I am soooo excited about finally being able to have the big day. I cannot wait.

You can coopy and paste photos from the net and they will amgically appear or you can click the icon that looks like a photo at the bottom of this type screen, copy the image URL and paste it in, the click ok.

Also we are getting married on a holiday and I was thinking about sending email save the date at six months in advance. Would that be appropriate or should I jsut send my invitations early like say four months since we cannot afford to mail save the date cards.

Michele,
 
There isn't a particular protocol for sending Save-the-date cards.  Technically, I always advise my clients that if they're getting married out of state, out of country or on a Holiday, to please send out their Save-the-date cards as soon as they are solid on their wedding dates, and their venues have been booked and deposits paid.  That way, you give them ample time to not only save the money to come to your event, but to also, make any and all plans that they need to make personally.
 
Rule of thumb sister, it's never too early for Save-the-date cards.

"Rule of thumb sister, it's never too early for Save-the-date cards."
Amen!
You can afford the postage on the save the date. ask about bulk shipping rates at the post office. Also hand them out to people you know and place them in office cubbies for co-workers. They may be more pleased to see your letter sitting on their keyboard than you think.

Well we arent really going to be able to afford to invite coworkers. We are only having 100 guest and that includes the bridal party. i want to keep it as close and intimate as possible.

That's a nice thought. I prefer a cosy wedding. Make sure that your guests are not bringing guests. Also make sure that your hundred count is for every person invited and not families counted as one. It is a common mistake to invite your cousin Larry and his wife, but forget they would bring their teenage children with them!

I plan to politely address all the invitations etc so that people know that it is a samll adult event.
Like addressing the envelope only to th couple invited and putting "adult reception' to follow as well as having the number of attendees filled in on the replay card. I am hoping these measures keep the wedding small and intimate.

I'm glad to see that you're including the words "Adult Reception" because that way, they know that no children are allowed.

I think that messages like that are best sent in a very polite way. I prefer "adult reception" over NO Children permitted. LOL

too true! Polite is always the best way to go.
By the by...I had an adults only reception and people still brought kids. It was a cocktail
reception poolside. I was so afraid one of the kids would fall into the pool or knock over the candlees and burn the freakin' castle to the ground, but it was great. They were on their best behavior and they even had fun on the dance floor. But it cut down on how many children were at the wedding by a LOT!

Hi Michele. "Adults Reception" is preferrable to "no children allowed" and it sounds like you've covered all your bases on that. However, please be prepared for guests whose feathers might be ruffled no matter how nicely you put it. You can't please everyone, and some people are very touchy when it comes to their children. Some feel that a wedding isn't a wedding without children. Some feel that a wedding is an opportunity to dress-up and show off their kids to friends and family. Some will feel that they shouldn't have to get a babysitter to come to your wedding. Some may even be so sore that they decline attending if they can't bring their kids. I've read comments such as these on various forums when this question comes up. Some guests forget that they are simply guests and cannot dictate how the wedding/reception should be.

Personally, I feel that a wedding reception, especially in the evening and moreso if alcohol is served, is best with as few children as possible to make it more manageable. If they misbehave, kids can really get underfoot and decrease adult enjoyment of the celebration. Plus, if adults have to fret over kids, they can't fully enjoy the evening out. It also cuts costs! We ended up with 3 children and 2 babies at our wedding and reception. It couldn't be helped because the family members travelled with the 3 kids and all the other family members were at the wedding. I also allowed a family friend to bring her 2 grandbabies who were left in her care at the last minute (long story). I didn't write "adults only" on the reception cards; I just wrote the names of all invited guests on the inner envelope. I also mentioned to a friend with kids that I would love to meet the kids at the brunch the following day. It worked out fine. Reasonable people get it.

TACKY!
Do not do this.  I will never forgive my husband's cousin for inviting some cousins and not others.
Terrible.

NO POTLUCKS ever at a wedding.
Really, you can't afford to put together some tea sandwiches, punch, scones and serve this as a Wedding Tea before the cake/champagne?
I put on a wedding tea for my sister and it was beautiful.
Tea Sandwiches with crusts cutoff, Punch, petite fours in wedding colors, scones and banana bread, zuccini bread, carrot cake bread, plus coffee and tea.   Then the CAKE and Champagne.   For 250 guests it cost $3,000.
What you can do is borrow china and teapots from your family/friends.  We did and it looked lovely.
 

I don't think it would be considered tacky to email, however cheap wedding invitations are always an alternative.  I like the idea of a casual rehersal dinner like a buffet or bbq, keeps things mellow before the big day.

I Agree C. The rehearsal dinner should be relaxing and I think it's better if it is informal.

I have gotten the details down. LOL. Im not doing any ceremony only invites. All the people I am inviting are the people I most want there. I was content with the number of people and I have learned that asking for an invite to a wedding is rude. I dont have to worry about trying to accomodate people who ask. So our list is complete. I have purchased very pretty invitations and I am preparing to mail them. 
The buffet is still my first choice for the rehearsal dinner. I found a nice affordable on and I like that we wont have to clean up after. LOL.

I am so glad you got that out of the way! I hear you on the no clean up! But I bet no one would have you clean up anyway. You are the Bride after all!