I have a big feeling my wedding is going to be a disaster. There is no one backing me up with any of my visions. How do I keep strong? I am trying hard not to stress out. I am very close to not doing any of it & cancelling all of the vendors & going to the justice of the peace. I still want to get married. But, what do I do when I feel no is on my side? I feel I am on the defensive? Please help!!!!!!!!!!! :(
I have a big feeling my wedding is going to be a disaster. There is no one backing me up with any of my visions. How do I keep strong? I am trying hard not to stress out. I am very close to not doing any of it & cancelling all of the vendors & going to the justice of the peace. I still want to get married. But, what do I do when I feel no is on my side? I feel I am on the defensive? Please help!!!!!!!!!!! :(
Nikky29
Nikky,
I'd like to respond by saying hold true to your dreams. The most important fact is that you deserve the wedding of your dreams. You stick to your visions and don't compromise, remain deligent and you will see that everything will work out just fine. More importantly, Nikki remember God is on your side! You deserve the best!!!! Hold on!!!!!
DaughterRhonda
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
i have two more months..... i try to hold on. I've already compromised and I'm tired.
Nikky29
I know it seems tough. The finish line is in sight my sister. Hold on, you can make it! All of us brides at VIBRIDE are sending you strength!!!!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
And girl do I need it............... Thanks to everyone bride that's sending me strength. I almost shut down there. 2 more months... there is a light at the end of the tunnel........... :)
Nikky29
Life is compromise. Nikky, you are doing GREAT! Choose the things that you WILL NOT back dowwn on and turn into bridezilla if necessary. We all went through what you are and some of us are going through it now! You are not alone. We are praying for you and I know it will be the wedding of your dreams. Great advice DaughterRhonda! I love my brides. :)
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Thanks once again. I really needed to read that. I thought I was going to lose my sanity there for a minute.
Nikky29
Girl you have your whole life to stress about. This is just one day, your day. You can't please everybody. You do your thing and remember at the end of the day it's just you and your man.
Tyffany
I am two months away and my hair is literally falling out. Won't dwell on that. This wedding business is hard. I'll be praying for you all.
Mine, too. I am focusing on relaxation. All of my plans are complete but of course I still have people like my wedding coordinator trying to add more people in my wedding party. How crazy is that?????
Nikky29
Hang in there. My wedding is less than two months away and I am just focusing on the important stuff. Everything will not be perfect...but hopefuly still smooth. Try to recruit some friends to help out on the day of...that is when you will need the most help.
Nikky, I understand what you are going through, because I was there before. I planned my whole wedding by myself with no help and it felt like nothing was correct. But do not let no one bring your day down because you only get that one day to shine and you hold your head up high on that day.
I certainly will try. Our wedding date is 8/13/05. I was disgusted at the coordinator asking me to add 3 more people to the wedding party. She told me last night... I looked at the phone like she was crazy... Yesterday I almost printed the programs....... I just let her speak and gave her the cost of the tuxs that would need to be rented and the deadline to have the measurements in and hung up and relaxed. :) My fiance's side of the family is CHEAP! So, I know once she heard the cost she decided otherwise. SHE IS ABSOLUTELY CRAZY! Adding 3 more people in....something is wrong with her. ;)
Nikky29
Nikky who is she thying to add into your wedding party (keyword: YOUR) and why? P.S. I'll agree-NUTS LOL :)
Living my life like it's GOLDEN!!
She wants to add 2 ushers and a aisle runner.... In my opinion, my groomsmen can be the ushers and the runner can already be down and have the flower girl sprinkle rose petals before I come down the aisle, if that makes any sense.
Nikky29
Hi Nikki,
Sounds like a plan, and remember it's YOUR day.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Nikky, Yes that is what the groomsmen are for they are supposed to usher the guest to their sit. I thought that the limo guys are supposed to put down your runner down the aisle. If you are having limos just asked the question if they do that part.
I am not having any limos. My wedding coordinators concerns are who will sit people when the ceremony begins. She claims that some people will not know when to not enter the ceremony when it begins which may stir up trouble. I figure if someone comes in late common sense would tell them not to enter the sanctuary once the ceremony has begun. Personally, I think she does not want to end up being the person who has to the ushers job when the ceremony begins. It's pissing me off.
Nikky29
Nikky do you have any hostesses? Assign them to guest book and seating duty. The groomsmen can escort any female guest who arrive alone to a certain point in the sanctury, and direct everyone else to proper seating(e.i. bride or grooms side). You coordinater should know this. She could also simply marked the first two pews "Reserved" on both sides for immediate family. Don't let her get on your nerves. Put your foot down and let her know exactly what you want her to do.
Living my life like it's GOLDEN!!
I do have 2 hostesses for the guest and gift table. I have 2 more hostesses to assist the caterer. I am going to put my foot down and tell her it's too late to add people to the wedding party............ I am like a week away from printing 200 ceremony programs and I'd hate to have unneccessary add-ons.
Nikky29
You have 4 hostesses you dont need to add anyone else. Get them to do a little more to help out. And you can have the aisle runner down, just have it blocked is no one walks on it before both of your mothers do.
Living my life like it's GOLDEN!!
i agree... I think that's what I am going to do. Thanks phenomonique
Nikky29