I had to fire my sister from my wedding. I was there for her wedding, but now she has all kind of excuses not to be in mine. I gave her 4 months to pay $70 for her dress that's how much it cost to have them made. She asked me if this wedding was a dream of mine, and she went on to say that she had obligations. My feelings were hurt for her to ask me that, because when she got married I was there for her in maid of honor capacity and all. My mother offered to pay for her dress, but I told her no, because all my other maids paid for theirs, it was not fair. My sister can pay $75 for a bottle of parfume, but not $70 to be in my wedding. I tried to be civilized, and tell her not to worry about being in the wedding since she could not seem to afford the dress and accessories, wear a red dress, and be the hostess, then she got insulted. Then she said if it was me she would make every effort to accomodate me. I don't feel that I have too. The expenses are very nominal, if she cares she should want to participate. Bottom line she's my sister, what should I do?
I had to fire my sister from my wedding. I was there for her wedding, but now she has all kind of excuses not to be in mine. I gave her 4 months to pay $70 for her dress that's how much it cost to have them made. She asked me if this wedding was a dream of mine, and she went on to say that she had obligations. My feelings were hurt for her to ask me that, because when she got married I was there for her in maid of honor capacity and all. My mother offered to pay for her dress, but I told her no, because all my other maids paid for theirs, it was not fair. My sister can pay $75 for a bottle of parfume, but not $70 to be in my wedding. I tried to be civilized, and tell her not to worry about being in the wedding since she could not seem to afford the dress and accessories, wear a red dress, and be the hostess, then she got insulted. Then she said if it was me she would make every effort to accomodate me. I don't feel that I have too. The expenses are very nominal, if she cares she should want to participate. Bottom line she's my sister, what should I do?
Do you still have the gown from her wedding? Lether wear that, LOL!! Just kidding. Be easy, it's you sister. And it sounds a little like sibling rivalry. The sun is shining on you now, you dream wedding, she may be a little envious. Reassure her. let her know you need her to have your back, make her feellike 'girl I don't know what I would do without you'. Cause that's your sister, and really, you know you'd be crushed if she doesn't play an important role in your ceremony. Is she you Matron of Honor?
Living my life like it's GOLDEN!!
Puffbaby, I know that the other brides maids are paying for their dresses, however if your mom is willing (although it is completely unfair), let her pay for your sister's dress. In this way you can keep the peace and have your sister be a part of your wedding. I know that this is a difficult situation for you, but will you be ok with your decision not to have your sister participate? Sometimes when it comes to weddings we have to make difficult decisions, but in making a difficult decision you have to be able live with your decision. In essence what I am trying to say, if you opt not to have your sister in your wedding this may put a strain on your relationship. Good luck in however you decide to handle this delicate situation.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Puffbaby, I agree with DaughterRhonda. In the long run you might feel badly about not having your sister participate in your wedding. Most of the time we expect a friend to give us a hard time, but sometimes family can be the worse -- they do not make it easy for us. Best of Luck!
Blessed be the Lord my strength ......
Reading this really upsets me because honestly it is your own that gives you all the headache. I noticed that you stood in her wedding and she would rather purchase perfume than a $70.00 dress which I think is absolutely a steal. I may sound cynical especially being a christian but we must call these demons out by name and she is being darn right DISGUSTING. Do not stress yourself over this, and do not beg her either, I would just carry on as thou she was not a part of the wedding, when she realizes this she may want the attention and go run purchase her dress. My wedding package was $300.00 which included everything they needed but there was stress about payment, I do not see why she is doing this to you when she know how important a wedding is and not to mention stressful. I say move on without her.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
PuffBaby, your ViBride sistahs want to know how you're doing these days. How are things coming along for you and your sister?
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Rhoda you know sometimes no news is good news so lets continue to pray that all works out for our sista.
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So true. It is important to let PuffBaby know that we are still praying for her and have her back no matter what.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
You are so correct....sometimes that's all we need ya know!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Ladies, this is a very sad situation.I pray that everything works out for PuffBaby.But, I also feel that if her sister doesn't want to cooperate, PuffBaby should move on without her. PuffBaby did everything possible to include her sister in the wedding.Ultimately, the sister will be the one to regret it. Especially when the word gets out that she missed out on a beautiful event.
Born Blessed!
You're right PlatinumStyle. You can't go back in time, PuffBaby's sister will regret it. I pray that she has a happy ending.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I guess that's all that really matters thou....that she is happy in the long run with or without her sister...Did anyone know her wedding date?
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.