This is another long one...........thanks in advance for reading it!
One of my friends, who is also a bridesmaid, makes jewelry on the side for extra income. She volunteered to make my wedding jewelry and the bridesmaids wedding jewelry as a gift to me, I just had to purchase the supplies. I agreed because I have seen her previous work, and she is good at what she does.
My necklace is finished, and I don't know if I like it. The necklace itself is pretty, but I don't think it will go with my dress.
For one, my dress has alot of CLEAR crystals on the front, and some on the back. The necklace she did was made using SILVER crystals. I don't think it would really be a big deal if the necklace wasn't soo big, but it really stands out, and I'm worried it will clash.
My friend is also making my crystal bouquet. She said she is using a mixture of clear and silver crystals. Maybe the bouquet will bring it all together, but even if it does, it's not like I will be carrying the bouquet all night. As you can see, I really like crystals and sparkly stuff. It's bad enough that I'll probably be sparkling like crazy as I walk down the aisle, but if the sparkles are clashing, that won't be good.
Next week, I will be going to the bridal store for a fitting. I am going to bring the jewelry and my tiara to try on with it.
Here are my questions:
1. Picture this in your head: the dress, the necklace, the tiara, and the bouquet. Do you think it will clash?
2. When I try it on all together, what should I do if I don't like it? Should I tell her the truth and hurt her feelings, or do I just fake like I like it, and wear it?
I don't want to hurt my friends feelings because I know she put alot of time into making it, but at the same time, I don't want to feel self conscious on my wedding day. Usually, when someone gets you a gift that you don't like, you just gracefully accept it, say thank you, and just never use it, but in this case, it's not that easy.
Ladies, please help me!
This is another long one...........thanks in advance for reading it!
One of my friends, who is also a bridesmaid, makes jewelry on the side for extra income. She volunteered to make my wedding jewelry and the bridesmaids wedding jewelry as a gift to me, I just had to purchase the supplies. I agreed because I have seen her previous work, and she is good at what she does.
My necklace is finished, and I don't know if I like it. The necklace itself is pretty, but I don't think it will go with my dress.
For one, my dress has alot of CLEAR crystals on the front, and some on the back. The necklace she did was made using SILVER crystals. I don't think it would really be a big deal if the necklace wasn't soo big, but it really stands out, and I'm worried it will clash.
My friend is also making my crystal bouquet. She said she is using a mixture of clear and silver crystals. Maybe the bouquet will bring it all together, but even if it does, it's not like I will be carrying the bouquet all night. As you can see, I really like crystals and sparkly stuff. It's bad enough that I'll probably be sparkling like crazy as I walk down the aisle, but if the sparkles are clashing, that won't be good.
Next week, I will be going to the bridal store for a fitting. I am going to bring the jewelry and my tiara to try on with it.
Here are my questions:
1. Picture this in your head: the dress, the necklace, the tiara, and the bouquet. Do you think it will clash?
2. When I try it on all together, what should I do if I don't like it? Should I tell her the truth and hurt her feelings, or do I just fake like I like it, and wear it?
I don't want to hurt my friends feelings because I know she put alot of time into making it, but at the same time, I don't want to feel self conscious on my wedding day. Usually, when someone gets you a gift that you don't like, you just gracefully accept it, say thank you, and just never use it, but in this case, it's not that easy.
Ladies, please help me!
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
Hey there B2B before you do anything just try everything on. If for whatever reason you don't like the whole ensemble together, please be honest with your friend and explain the situation to her. This is your wedding day and your feelings are first and foremost. I'm sure she will understand. Tell her you appreciate her gift and her efforts. Good luck!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I agree with Rony that you should try it on with the ensemble first. If it doesn't work just tell her that the necklace seems to be too big or something of that nature and she may ofer to make you another one. If she's your friend she wants you to be happy and knows that you want everything to look perfect. You shouldn't wear it on your wedding day when you don't like it but talk with her about it. She should understand.
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I agree with the ladies, but let's just assume that you DON'T like the look of the necklace with your dress, the only advice that I have for you is some advice that my dearly departed father gave me...." You should be honest with people but that does not mean that you have to hurt thier feelings. You can say anything to anyone, it's not what you it's how you say it. In the end if they are really your friend then they will appreciate your honesty as well as your tact" Hopefully this will help. I know that you would like to spare her feelings IF you find that you don't like the necklace but at the same time you should look and feel your best on your wedding day.
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Honey there is no other way of gettig around this...I know this is your friend but honey this is your wedding - if it clashes at fitting time then tell her the truth and reassure her of how much you appreciate her effort and wear it at the reception or on honeymoon with a fabulous outfit and take lots of pictures. You can not sugar coat this one. She will appricate you for telling the truth. :-)
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
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Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
So true Charly!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Well, you do have a bit of a dilemma that extends beyond whether or not you like a necklace. This is the problem about doing business with friends: you're not allowed to be objective about the outcome. I just had a situation like this with a friend of mine who is a photographer. He helped me launch my webpage, but when I had some critique, he got pissed off and said he didn't want to do it anymore. So, I learned my lesson, but probably lost a friend in the process. My advice to you is to weigh out the importance of a minute detail such as a necklace that most people won't notice (do you remember the necklace of the bride of the last wedding you attended) with a friendship that has the potential to last a lifetime.
A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave.
Gandhi~
[quote="nnwrigh"]Well, you do have a bit of a dilemma that extends beyond whether or not you like a necklace. This is the problem about doing business with friends: you're not allowed to be objective about the outcome. I just had a situation like this with a friend of mine who is a photographer. He helped me launch my webpage, but when I had some critique, he got pissed off and said he didn't want to do it anymore. So, I learned my lesson, but probably lost a friend in the process. My advice to you is to weigh out the importance of a minute detail such as a necklace that most people won't notice (do you remember the necklace of the bride of the last wedding you attended) with a friendship that has the potential to last a lifetime.
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Great advice NN!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="nnwrigh"]My advice to you is to weigh out the importance of a minute detail such as a necklace that most people won't notice (do you remember the necklace of the bride of the last wedding you attended) with a friendship that has the potential to last a lifetime.[/quote]
While I understand where your coming from and respect your input...I totally disagree with you....did you see the bride's comment and concern???
[quote="bride2be805"]My necklace is finished, and I don't know if I like it. The necklace itself is pretty, but I don't think it will go with my dress.[/quote]
It's not a matter of people remembering her necklace it's a matter of the bride liking it and feeling comfortable enough with it to wear on one of the most significant days of her life.....Are you saying she should ignore the fact that she does not know if she likes it or that it my clash and wear it anyway because this is her friend.....I THINK NOT!!!.......
It is not my intensions here to cause a fick-up but honey I disagree with....if it was my wedding and I did not feel comfortable - there is no way I am walking down the isle with it. - it's about her and what she wants and more so how she feels wearing it.
This freindship can be saved thru a little communication on both ends...and certainly if this person was truly her friend, I can't see her being upset with the bride if she does not wear it.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
I totally agree with you Charly. Those are my same thoughts about this.
[quote="bride2be805"] As you can see, I really like crystals and sparkly stuff. It's bad enough that I'll probably be sparkling like crazy as I walk down the aisle, but if the sparkles are clashing, that won't be good.
It probably won't clash at all. you are going to be trying everything on so don't worry until then. Look yourn friend in the face when you ask her opinion. SHe will be honest with you even though she made it. Also consider wearing it BECAUSE she loved you enough to handcraft this for you.
I think the combo of silver and clear cyrstals will be lovely and break up the super shine of the crystals. I LOVE bling and you are entitled to BLIND them on your wedding day. You will look like a princess when the lights hit you whjen you dance your first dance and you will glow and shimmer when you walk down the aisle. BREATHE baby! lol
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Update ladies............
I went for my fitting, and tried everything on together, and YES, it clashed. The sales reps said when I came out of the dressing room, the first thing they saw was the necklace, not the dress. It really stood out because of the silver crystals. They said I should wear the same style necklace, but using clear crystals.
I told my friend that made the jewelry, and she understood. I explained to her that I love the necklace, even with the silver crystals, but it just didn't go with the dress. I asked her if she could make the exact same style necklace using clear crystals, and she said ok. I asked her if it was an inconvenience, and I offered to pay her, but she refused. She said it only took her about 4 hours to make it anyway. She never said she wanted the silver one back, but I was thinking about giving it back to her because she may be able to sell it, and make some money off of it. What do you ladies think? It really is a beautiful necklace.
Thanks Ladies for all your advice!
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
Hey there B2B! So glad that your friend was understanding, that is evidence of true friendship. I am also glad that she is willing to make another necklace for you. God is good! Offering to give the original necklace back is a good jesture. I knew things would work out. Awesome!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="bride2be805"]Update ladies............
I went for my fitting, and tried everything on together, and YES, it clashed. The sales reps said when I came out of the dressing room, the first thing they saw was the necklace, not the dress. It really stood out because of the silver crystals. They said I should wear the same style necklace, but using clear crystals.
I told my friend that made the jewelry, and she understood. I explained to her that I love the necklace, even with the silver crystals, but it just didn't go with the dress. I asked her if she could make the exact same style necklace using clear crystals, and she said ok. I asked her if it was an inconvenience, and I offered to pay her, but she refused. She said it only took her about 4 hours to make it anyway. She never said she wanted the silver one back, but I was thinking about giving it back to her because she may be able to sell it, and make some money off of it. What do you ladies think? It really is a beautiful necklace.
Thanks Ladies for all your advice!
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I have to applaud you for that. I think what you did was great!
Each One Teach One!
B2B,you should keep the silver necklace.Who knows,you may end up going to a ball or other formal function and may need it then.
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[quote="platinumstyle"]B2B,you should keep the silver necklace.Who knows,you may end up going to a ball or other formal function and may need it then.
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I would love to keep it because it's beautiful, it just seems only right to give it back to her. You know what, maybe instead of giving it back to her for her to sell, I could just give her some money for it. Even though she said it only took her 4 hours to make, that's still four hours she could have been doing something else, so I don't want her to feel like she wasted her time.
*If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything*
You are very considerate B2B!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
B2B, I think that is a nice gesture.
Each One Teach One!