ok ladies- as I sit here I'm shaking my head in disbelief. Now I really got a situation. A guy I was involved with over a 4 yr period tells me after all this time that he loves me and yes-I love him (always have) but we never sat down and talked about it. He called off his engagement & I had already called off mine (not because of him). Now he's about to move to another state because of his job and with my job relocation isnt a big issue should we decide to pursue. To the eye, he is so much more ideal in everyway. I feel like screaming. Why me???
ok ladies- as I sit here I'm shaking my head in disbelief. Now I really got a situation. A guy I was involved with over a 4 yr period tells me after all this time that he loves me and yes-I love him (always have) but we never sat down and talked about it. He called off his engagement & I had already called off mine (not because of him). Now he's about to move to another state because of his job and with my job relocation isnt a big issue should we decide to pursue. To the eye, he is so much more ideal in everyway. I feel like screaming. Why me???
Hey Sistah, you have to search your heart, only you know what is right for you. The only think I would recommend is taking your time. I wish you all the best!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I all sounds so romantic. By be careful, take your time. Are you prepared to move to another state with him, why did your relationship end before. Things that have to be considered.
Living my life like it's GOLDEN!!
My heart is as confused as my head. We never formally entered a relationship, the best I can call it is a romantic friendship (homey, lover, friend). I knew that he had hopes that he would have his family (son & the mother) so I kept my feelings inside for him. I wouldn't rush to relocate, we both need some time for ourselves to get over the engagements we both had. The funny thing was neither one of us were excited to tell anyone. He saw my ring and he told me while standing in line ordering some fish for lunch. 4 years is a long time to not know that you feel the same way.
hmmm... Go sloooooooooooooowwwwwww. my holla girls are strangly quiet about this one!
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I'm at a lost too- I saw him last nite and he leaves thur/fri and he said he'd be back for the holidays and asked if I would come to visit. But check this- today the boyfriend calls and says today will be a me day since we haven't spent time together lately. Its almost like he senses that he's losing me. In conversation one day he even said its like I'm not 'there' anymore and I had no response.
The plot has thinned out! Wheeww... My dear Chocolate has now relocated to another state and at first it bothered me that: I didn't see him before he left, he didn't call to say he made it safely, he came back for the holidays and I didn't hear from him (minus a mistaken call to a family member in which I politely said he had the wrong # knowing it was him). Now he's on his way overseas for whatever reason and I'm moving on. We can fix our mouths to say anything, but love speaks thru our actions. Ant really does love me and I'm starting to really appreciate him more.
OK where was I in the midst of all this thickening plot! whew girl...this is some serious stuff. I gatta inhale just to find the right words to respond to this one. It is my experience that God moves people out of our way to take us to higher heights and no we can not see the heights we just gatta sit and watch the wonders of His power. I say this to say that maybe God moved 4yr for a reason, as humans we tend to crave that wish we can not have, we don't appreciate what we have when we have it and when its gone that is when we desire it the most. My serious advise to you is not to make any hasty decision, pray about it and let God lead you. Be Bless!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
[quote="sistah"]Ant really does love me and I'm starting to really appreciate him more.
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It seems that he needed that wake up call though. Your heart would not have wandered if you were truly happy. I am glad to see you worked it out. Sooo when's the wedding again???? [smile]
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July 31st is the date regardless to the year. That's the day he originally proposed while we were in Iraq. If we do agree to 2006, my graduation is May and I'm trying to get another military school done before grad school starts = a tight summer schedule. I have everything already planned, just need to make reservations, do photos and finishing touches.
I'm still in the dark as to when he's gonna repropose.
oooh maybe it will be this christmas???? How can you stand the anticipation? He may wait until new year's or even graduation! Gosh! I'm anxious and it's not even me! [lol] Have fun!
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Wouldn't that be something if he is waiting until New Years like Rosetta said...I can see it now, 5,4,3,2....1 HAPPY NEW YEAR!, everyone screaming and hugging and sistah turn to her man and he is on his knees with a little black box opened with magnificant ring...Lord give me strength. Now I am also anxious goodness gracious Rosetta see what you cause (lol) :-) Sistah you gatta let us know when and how he does it girl....we will be waiting.
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I'm not sure what to expect. He had me take my ring off until he asks again and I told him where I keep it(its with the rest of my jewelry) so each time I grab some earrings its still there so I'm just as anxious as yall are. I secretly hope for Christmas, he asked what I want and I told him what I want doesn't cost a thing- I think he knows. He'll have to do it before grad though it would be nice to come off the stage and bamm! We already have our bands picked out and I can't wait. My hand feels so nakey without my ring. Ohhh.... let me tell ya what happened today- Chocolate called but for whatever reason my phone didn't ring so the vm rang and I checked the msg but didn't call back.
Men I tell ya.
Stop looking in the box for the ring---the man is gonna get you another ring, dp you think he is silly enough to do the obvisious..NOT!
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Sis, you are so right, "MEN.". After all this time, Chocolate decides he wants to get in contact with you. Ant just needed a wake up call -- sometimes men take us for granted. A Christmas or a New Year's Eve reproposal -- sounds good to me (soooo romantic) -- let us know what happens. Best of Luck!
Blessed be the Lord my strength ......
Oh my goodness, this is getting good! Girl sit back and enjoy the ride. He will propose when you least expect. Sounds like he has a plan underneath his sleeves. Girl keep us posted!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
I don't want another ring, there is so much sentimental value plus its simple and with the wedding bands it's gorgeous. When people see my
ring(s) they know I'm VERY loved. I wasn't lookin on purpose, you know if it was you- you'd be a lil curious too- I'm just getting excited all over again that's all. I needed the wake up call more than Ant. Even today when he got off work, he was tired but still catered to me by rubbing my back while we watched tv. I was thinking dang, I love that big headed dude
Sistah I was not trying to be facetious, that was not my intension at all...I only wanted to say that he probably knows what you are expecting and so he may do the complete opposite from that. Never think I am being cheeky to anyone one on this board because that is not who I am as a person and if I have offended you in any way shape or form, I humbly apologise.
Charlotte wishes you all a beautiful Christmas filled with loads of love, laughter and the true meaning of this blessed season.
Oh sweety... I didn't take it that way at all. I promise you. I actually got him to talk a little and he says he has a date and his plans all mapped out and that's all he would tell me. I wanted to beat him over his head for more details but he was driving my truck at the time. I guess I need to get him to take the ring to his place huh?
Side note- why did I just find out Morris Chestnut is divorcing... I told him he could have Gabrielle Union so he said the 4 of us could make it happen- yeah right... But then again, talk about the best of both worlds... ;O)