Hello, I was just curious, for those of you whose wedding is coming up in the next couple of months, are you pretty much ready? What do you still have to do? Are there maybe any common problems or issues those of us that are still a little ways off should look out for as the time draw closer?
Hello, I was just curious, for those of you whose wedding is coming up in the next couple of months, are you pretty much ready? What do you still have to do? Are there maybe any common problems or issues those of us that are still a little ways off should look out for as the time draw closer?
Great question!
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The only thing I would say to you ladies is shop, shop, shop around for bargains. You will glad that you did.
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
[quote="DaughterRhonda"]The only thing I would say to you ladies is shop, shop, shop around for bargains. You will glad that you did.
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Great advice, Rhonda...I've spent so much money on decorations, it's ridiculous. All that money I could've saved if I started shopping early. I wished so many times that I clipped & used that coupon I saw in the Sunday newspaper (or bridal magazine). Online there are sales or free shipping offers that I wish I would've taken advantage of as well. When you have your theme together, start shopping for everything you even THINK you might need!
I'm a married woman as of December 2, 2006.
Delight yourself also in the Lord & He shall give you all the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:4
Great advice, I was planning on leaving my decorations for a little further down the line, but I'll start keeping an eye out for things now.....especially with all the sales going on at this moment. Anymore advice?
That is a good questions. I love to plan events that what I use to do for my church. But plannin g this wedding is a different story. It's fun but stressing at the same time. Escpecically now because time is winding down. I still need to order my dress, pick out flowers and decorations. I suppose to me with the baker today about the cakes I just met with the lady for my invitations last Sat. I still looking for a limo and a DJ. I can go on and on. Everytime I think I done something something else comes up But I know God is going to work it out. And to top it off I just picked all of my colors Sat. So that was holding me up from picking flowers and decor.
I feel you KMED, one of the things holding me back from decorations is I wanted to get the bridesmaids dresses back first. I just actually found out this past weekend that they were holding off ordering all the dresses until all my bridesmaids paid their deposits. I didn't know that! I also found out as I went through the order sheets that they had the wrong prices and style numbers on several of my bridesmaids!! That would have been horrible! Anyway we know we want to get some Catty lillies for the wedding and do the whole floating candles and mirror thing for the tables, so instead of waiting, I'll probably go ahead and tell my coordinator to start purchasing those.
soontobebride, I know exactly how you feel. I asked all my girls to order their dresses by this Saturday (the 2nd.) I called the shop and found out that not one of my girls (I have 10) have paid their deposits yet. They won't send the orders through until they have all of the money. It's to ensure that all of the fabric is from the same dyelot and not different shades of the same color.
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Yeah, that's what they told me about ordering the dresses. I'm just wondering why they have not paid the deposits yet....I was under the impression that everyone did. It's going to take about 3 months for them to come back so they need to do it as soon as possible for alterations etc. They betta' get on it!
Stay on top of that ladies -- trust me I am speaking from experience. -- LOL!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Rhonda you took the words right out of my mouth. I was just about to say budget and bargin. Those are your best friends!! Now all I have to do is learn that myself. LOL
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I still have a lot to do and my wedding is on March 3
In the next 2 weeks I will:
Meet with floral director
Finalize photographer's contract
Pre-wedding photos-after contract signing
buy shoes, veil, tiara
buy BM's jewelry and gifts
finalize my Bridal Shower list and addresses
Get on my pastor's schedule for counseling starting in Janary
Book ceremony rentals
Order 1000 flower petals
By the end of December...
Print invites
Finish gathering and typing addresses
finalize invite list
finalize menu and cake
I have bought my own jewelry and some other items and I found a larger version of my vase at the Dollar Tree when I was home visiting my parents last week for Thanksgiving.
Not too many issues to deal with. My FH takes too long to make decisions, sometimes I can't depend on everyone being as pumped as I am about this wedding (as expected) but I try not to let it get me down. The closer we get the more exciting everyone gets. Little by little, day by day...God gets me through!
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That's right, Kee...Keep it moving. See, I'm like your FH with the indecision. I'm so glad my FH is able to be the tie-breaker (after he hears my pros & cons).
I'm a married woman as of December 2, 2006.
Delight yourself also in the Lord & He shall give you all the desires of your heart.-Psalm 37:4
[quote="housewife147"]Rhonda you took the words right out of my mouth. I was just about to say budget and bargin. Those are your best friends!! Now all I have to do is learn that myself. LOL
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Too funny House, but you are right "Budget and Bargain" are your best friends. Be sure to stay in close contact with them -- LOL!!!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Bumble you are on the ball! Celebrate your progress! All the best!
Delight yourself in The Lord & He will give you the desires of your heart!Ps 37
Tell me about it ladies. I just can't understand why it takes so long to get the dresses back. I have five bm and only 2 is able to order their dresses in Dec. The others is saying that they might not be able to do because of the holidays. I wanted my bm to have their dresses at least a month before the wedding just in case there is a back order or if anything needs to be done before the wedding. Because I will not be stressed out at the last mintue. I also went to look for dresses for me and most of the shops want you to oder six months in advance. Hold up stop the press! Six months for one I don't have the all the money. Plus I plan to loose weight before May so I don't know what size I will be wearing. I think that is a scam so you have to pay for alterations. But thank GOD I did find a lady that can do it in four months. So I'm playing that GOD send me a money miracle.
Thats why I am glad I let my FH convince me to just do 2 BM's and 2 GM's. We used davids bridal, and everything came back in 4 weeks-2 weeks earlier than they promised which is good. With all this stress, I cannot imagine having to deal with more BM's. My sister and Matron of Honor gave me enough headache with their dresses (my fault-indecisive on my part) and I am sstuggling to get the mothers (well really my FMIL situated with her wardrobe).
All the best to you dear. But trust me, it will all work out to the glory of God, and Rhony can attest to this!
All I can say is just try your best not to let their money situations hinder you and keep doing just what you're already doing, like having contigency plans like finding someone who can help you in four months.
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I really didn't plan on having 8 bridesmaids. We have a VERY big family...nothing but women....and we all are close. So I fell in the trap, well if I do this cousin, I'm going to have to do that cousin, and that cousin had me in her wedding SOOOO, I gotta have her in mine. That type of thing, so I'm having two maid of honors (both my sisters) and the rest are cousins, and one friend of the family.....sheesh!! I know one thing, I plan on calling next week to see if they've put in their deposit, they're going to have to do that before the end of the year!
I was trying to keep my bridal party small too. I have 2 MOH, and 4 BM but then I have 4 little cousins that are too old to be flower girls but I still wanted them in the ceremony. So they are now junior bridesmaids. I was pretty relentless last week though so I think that every one has their money and measurments in now (i hope!)
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My wedding is in two years. I have ordered and recieved the Save the Date Magnets, I'm sending them out (the addresses we have). FH is dragging his feet on sending his out. We also have our website. I have a bunch of ideas on everything else.
Wow ladies! I can not believe your BMs are doing this, not paying for the dresses. How much notice do you think I should give them about the dresses so they will be paid for on time and picked up? I am going to use David's Bridal because no one is here with me and there is one where all of them live. (I have 4 BMs). I think this will be good because then they will not have to worry about their dress not being there because of someone else not paying.
I got engaged in September, my wedding is in July, we went out and looked for dress in October. I am going to follow up with them this week to see where everyone is. I think it is more a money issue with a couple, I just want to know what's up so I can help someone out if need be...
I knew the style of dresses that I wanted the BMs to wear, it just took awhile to find a price that wouldn't break their wallets. I found a store in Morristown, NJ called Nonchalance that gave me $50 off since we were buying 10 dresses. I mailed each of the BMs a "Will you be my Bridesmaid?" card back in October with the dress information saying to please order by December 2. (The dress shop suggested by Dec. 31 but I wanted to leave room since I figured people would be dragging their feet.)
The dresses are supposed to take 4-5 months to come in so the girls should have them by April- May and have plenty of time to get them altered by August.
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"To be a christian without prayer is no more possible than being alive without breathing" - Dr King Jr
I hope you everything get ironed out with the dresses. I think the ladies have very good intentions or else they would have told you they could not be in your wedding.
Oh yeah...I'm sure they have good intentions. Some people are just slow on stuff and you need to keep behind them, shouldn't have to with grown folks, but you know how that is...
The thing that I have to keep remembering is just because the wedding is the most important thing in my life right now, it's not in theirs. Yes they are happy and excited but they have other things on their mind. I'll just keep nudging them with friendly reminders and hope that they take the hint eventually.
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"To be a christian without prayer is no more possible than being alive without breathing" - Dr King Jr
[quote="ajiamarie"]The thing that I have to keep remembering is just because the wedding is the most important thing in my life right now, it's not in theirs. Yes they are happy and excited but they have other things on their mind. I'll just keep nudging them with friendly reminders and hope that they take the hint eventually.
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Yep, thats true. Plus good intentions are fine and well, but ever so often "life happens" and things come up financially beyond our control (car breaks down, costs = 1 arm and 1 leg). So keeping the lines of communication open is important so no one will "not drop out" because they don't want to hurt you-and end up slowing the process, but they really can't afford to help as they originally agreed because they fell on unforseeable hard times.
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Thats exactly what I mean, I would understand if something came up and you couldn't partcipate in my wedding. My thing is just let a sista' know early enough so adjustments can be done in time...
I think you are doing the right thing by following up with them.