Worth the wait

Marquita01...girl I know what you are talking about. I too am a born again christian and so is my fiance, We are blessed because we do not live in the same time zone so that in a way is a blessing to help us get thru this. Oh the flesh the flesh!..we spend a lot of time on the internet chatting and that too can get a little hot..often times we have to remind ourselves of our purpose and obeying God's command. We strongly feeling that if we don't, we will block our blessings. He is coming to stay for a week and he will be staying at my apartment...oh boy! but we must stay focused. Another plus that I have to help is that I was married before and have 2 small children so I will be staying in their room....Girl no matter how difficult is gets, we know if we follow God's word and do it his way...HE will surely bless our union. God Bless you and your FH and may his face continuly shine upon you both. I will keep you in my pray. LISTEN HERE.....DO IT THE RIGHT WAY...IT IS "WORTH THE WAIT" :-)

OK! I was not born again,but decide to wait almost a year before having sex on my wedding night. It was torture! lol. There was a lot of dry humping and cold showers. oh aand I locked myself in the bathroom on our wedding night --scared to death! lol

Girl, I understand how you feel. I know it's easier said than done but whenever you start feeling tempted, try reciting a scripture or two and try to remember your promise to yourself and GOD. Good luck on your special day.

Girl, I understand how you feel. I know it's easier said than done but whenever you start feeling tempted, try reciting a scripture or two and try to remember your promise to yourself and GOD. Good luck on your special day.

Marquita01, girl I know it is hard. My then FH proposed to me in February 2004, and we were planning to be married on June 18, 2005. Instead of waiting until June 18, 2005, we were married in our first pastor's house in July 2004. However, we continued to plan the ceremony (renewing our vows) and the reception for June 18, 2005. I still had the wedding of my dreams -- I felt like I was marrying him for the first time on June 18, 2005. I really felt like a new bride, not that I did not feel like a bride in July 2004 :-). Hang in there, and Best wishes.

Hi Marquita01, I too am a born again Christian, However, my cousin inspired me by how she and her husband handled their situation. My cousin is also a born again Christian and what she and her husband did (they just married 9/3/05), she and her fiance signed a contract vowing to abstain from sex until their wedding night, they also had their pastor sign it. Although she says it was extremely hard every time they were tempted, they remembered the contract. In any event I celebrate all of you who are enduring!!!!!

I too am clapping for everyone who is attempting this hard feat. My fiance and I live together and have discussed the issue of not having sex for awhile before our wedding; but it's hard. Again, we live together. I know this may sound like a stupid question, but is it possible for those of us who live with their fiance to practice "No Sex"?

lol wait until you have been married 10 years. You will find that question funny too!
Just do what you did when you first started dating. heavy petting is fine and don't go any further no matter how tempted. I think it made my wedding night more special. Every touch was so intense. It makes your love tangible.

i wasnt a virgin when i got married but that was the first time that we made love, and i'm glad that i waited it was more special that the first time. i felt like a princess it was a night that we will charish for our life together. i felt more special that ever before.

laneirh--- my husband and I took the vow not to have sex prior to the wedding night. He moved in with me a month before the wedding. And we didn't sleep in the same room. I slept in the bedroom and he slept in the living room on the couch. Some times it was hard. But we both knew it was the right thing to do. Now I am not saying that it wasn't hard because there were times when I thought that I was going to loose my mind. But it turned out for the best. It makes your wedding night more special.

Ladies how ya'll doing?..listen here, the enemy is so busy, he plays with our minds and our emotions and it is easy for him to do because we are still in the flesh and he will do whatever it takes for us to break our covenant with God. It is hard but pray unceasingly and if you fall (hoping you don't) remember that God is a forgiven God that tosses our sins into the sea of forgetfulness, just trust and believe that he will do it, He is just that kind of God. Be encouraged and God continue to bless you all because he knows your heart means well.

Thank you for those encouraging words! I feel like I can make it, knowing that I am not alone in my desire to do what is pleasing to God. Hang in there ladies!!!!

laneirh, my husband and I were living together as well before we were married. We were not having sex either, but we did not feel right about living with each other (I am not trying to lay a guilt trip on you and your FH -- you and your FH do what is right for you both). My then FH and I were saving to purchase a house. I gave up my apartment to save money, and moved in with my mother. Once you leave home sometimes it can be a little difficult living with a parent, especially when I had not lived with my parents in over 20 years. I then moved in with my daughter, it was her first apartment, I felt guilty living with her. When she moved into another apartment a year later, I decided not to impose on her, and moved in with my FH. At the time, we did not know that we would feel so condemned living with each other. We could not organize the wedding that I had dreamed about within six months -- we needed at least a year, so we did what was right for us -- we married five months later. A year later after we married, we purchased our new home a month before our ceremony to renew our wedding vows. Good Luck!

Thanks ladies for the encourging words. I will take all of that to heart and pray on it all. I want lie and say that it is not hard to not do the right thing. Me and my FH have been living together for 3 yrs now and I guess alot of prayer will work it all out for me. Thanks again.....

Bump...some great insight
for my girl!

wow reading this these posts was good medicine. Thank you so much Ms Boston! You are a true help.